If I had to use a word to describe a failure, temporary would be it. Everyone experiences failures—no matter how prepared, driven, conditioned, and determined they get.
Here’s what: things may not always go our way; it is because something better always comes along. Although one cannot deny that accepting failure—when things don’t happen the way we want—is one of the hardest things in life. Here’s another thing to cheer you up: we all suffer failures at some point, so it is okay to feel bad if that’s how you want to express yourself. In time, you will be fine and can try again.
Admittedly and sadly, not everyone has the courage and confidence to brush themselves off and try again. There are people who would easily lose their drive and confidence after missing a shot at getting what they want; they would hesitate to give it another go. After encountering a setback, some become scared that they might fail and get disappointed again.
Want to know what’s even sadder? It’s when people don’t try at all, not once; it’s either they’re too terrified to fail, too fragile to get hurt, or think it’s just not worth a shot, so they give up even they even started. But why do some of us get too scared to try?
Failure is scary and doesn’t feel great. But let us remember what Jack Ma said, “If you’ve never tried, how will you know if there’s any chance?” This hits some of us right in the eyes, don’t you think?
That P!nk Song
Sometimes, when we hear of someone’s failure, we think we’re going to experience the same, so we take a step back and forget about it. Would you stop applying for the same job after failing just one interview? If you are not cut out for one thing, there can be many ways to cope: you can invest in your skills while you have the luxury of time. Once you regain the confidence, you can give it another try.
It is when we fail that we learn better. Learning from our failures gives us a better chance at succeeding the next time we try. No matter what causes a letdown, we can convince ourselves that things will be brighter the next time.
Do you love singing along to P!nk’s song “Try?” She said it best in her lines, “Where there is desire there is gonna be a flame…But just because it burns doesn’t mean you’re gonna die, you’ve gotta get up and try, try, try.”
We have to understand that disappointments can happen even at our best. More importantly, we have to recognize that setbacks and letdowns are part of the journey that makes us realize our strengths and weaknesses. Failures allow us to revisit our dreams, observe reality, and review the process.
Failures don’t necessarily have to discourage us. With a positive attitude, we can use failures as our motivation to be more ready and do better next time. We may fall and cry, but we can choose to wipe those tears, get back up, and walk…or run to fight again.
So if you have the desire for a plan you set out to achieve, take a step forward and begin the journey. Don’t get intimidated by failures, especially if you’re just getting started. Take the words of Jack Ma by heart: “If you’ve never tried, how will you know if there’s any chance?”